Begin Again
Chris and I have been apart for about three weeks - a little more on the calendar, a little less geographically.... Usually about mid-May, my job spirals out of my control. It requires long hours, including many in the evening and on into early morning, culminating in a full seven days away from home. Even the princess left to escape my distraction.
During this time, our relationship necessarily becomes secondary in time management, even if it remains a primary focus of my heart.
Not that we have been entirely disconnected - on Friday last, he flew over to join me, patiently waited on me (literally and figuratively) while I was overly employed, joined me in a 16 hour hiatus of distraction and decompression with M & Iris, and then generously chauffeured me on a 9 1/2 hour drive home. From there we enjoyed an additional 16 hours of erotic exchanges before he dropped me off at the airport.
I am now reunited with the princess if separated from my husband again. It is a "Mommy Day" in that I have not been allowed out of her sight or out of her attention, and in these few moments I have stolen away from her side, I have been charged with a task.
You see, following the six weeks of chaos in May and June each year, Chris and I generally go through a renewal of sorts. Sometimes it is simple re-assertion of the former relationship and at other times we begin a shift in the power exchange between us. Last year, such things were complicated by a long-distance move and the end of an eternal three months of living apart, but this year I am happy to say that such mundane considerations like whether we will have a place to live or not and whether we will be financially ruined by a collapse in real estate values have been resolved.
We have mostly ourselves to think about. Chris has mostly me to think about. I have mostly him to think about. We like this change in prospects.
Thus, life begins anew again when the princess and I return home next Monday. During some quiet hours together last weekend when we mostly were able to talk and not enact our discussions, some resolutions were put forth by both of us. I have been promised both a reinforcement of old rules as well as some new ones, both because he can make them and because better care needs to be taken care of my body and soul for a little while. We have discussed consistency, expectations, devotion, fidelity and our somewhat unusual beliefs about it, fantasies, alternatives to spanking, caffeine, sleep and even sex. (Hard to believe that last one made it onto the list of topics, heh?)
So, for awhile at least and perhaps longer...
- After the princess is abed, I will not simply seek him out and inquire as to how I might serve him before pursuing my own needs. No, I will expect to be occupied in the evenings. If he has no need of my attention, he's fairly sure he can put me to bed early, have me sit on the floor and massage his feet, sit on the sofa beside him and write erotica or restrain me over the end of the bed until he's in the mood to hairbrush me. And if you think the thought of being subject to his whim in the evenings doesn't make me crazy with lust, you don't know me very well.
- No clothes in the evenings unless specificially directed to dress for him. We had a no panties rule last summer and that worked well until winter arrived, and then it was dramatically unpleasant and was ultimately not forgotten, but signficantly eased. Of course this translates to sleeping nude, too, and I have absolutely no qualms about that! :)
- Before I return, I am to prepare and post in my blog a list of ten punishments which will be given to me for no reason other than that Chris knows he can punish me how and where he wishes. Only two may be spankings of the traditional sort. And if they are not up to standard? Well, I am certain I'd rather not experience it.
- I am assured that some 'healthy' rules will be provided upon my return. More on this later maybe, if I am not too busy getting punished for breaking them.
More later (like ten punishments), as the princess is no longer distracted.







6 comments:
Sparkle,
It sounds like some serious fun is going to be had. It isn't 'punishment' when you love it so much :) (evil grin)
So, um, can the blog readers selfishly vote here for what you might be doing, like WRITING EROTICA? (hint, hint!)
Blessings,
Raven
Lovely sparkle.
We were recently apart too and, like you and Chris, used that separation as a time to redefine and remake the rules between us.
Because I'm such a "me too" girl, I'm going to try this weekend to write something too.
I'm so glad you wrote this. And so glad for you both.
Sparkle, as a fan of your writing may I vote for more erotica.
It is often necessary to redefine rules.
Warm hugs,
Paul.
Ten punishments? To be given all at once? Just whenever? Saved for special? And you have to choose them? Oh, lordy, that would be so hard for me.
Clearly, this pushes my boundaries! LOL I am so glad that Hawk doesn't read blogs.
Paul & Raven, I have to say that writing erotica is high on my list of desirable activities, too. But Chris isn't as devoted a fan as you - he's even confessed to having 'not read it all' before. Except, of course, as I'm lying next to him in bed telling the story out loud. Then he pays attention ;). (This is likely to get me in trouble, you know.)
Beth: No, NOT all at once. Not even in ten straight days. Egads, I'd be exhausted, overwhelmed, and in need of another three week separation! And Hawk may not read blogs, but he's already got you being creatively wicked on his behalf, no?
Mija, I would love to read about how you and Pablo are doing. I miss you :)
Loving Annie, I'll try to explain it better in my next entry...
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